Why Men Don’t Always Call – Dating Tips for Women

Most women would love to understand why men don’t always call when they say they will. This is one of those ongoing riddles that we just can never find an answer to. It’s puzzling when you’ve been involved for some time with a great guy and he doesn’t call when he says he will. You react typically by calling him and wanting to know what’s going on and it generally just leads to either him being distant or an argument ensuing. If your guy is one of the majority who doesn’t call when he says he will there are a couple of reasons why this may be happening. Understanding them can aid you in knowing how to get him to call you more.

One of the main reasons why men don’t always call when promised is they simply don’t view it as all that important. Before you jump to a conclusion that includes him losing interest in you, consider the dynamic of your relationship right now. If things are great when you two are together and the only real issue is that he doesn’t pick up the phone when he’s supposed to, that indicates he is still very much into you. What’s likely happening is that he knows you’ll call him, so he’s in no rush to do it himself. We set a tone fairly early in our dating relationships that involves the issue of telephone calls. If you usually call him each day, he’s not going to be in any mad rush to call you. He knows the call is coming so he sees no reason to focus on it. That’s one way that men are different than us and it doesn’t indicate his disinterest in you at all.

Another reason why men don’t call you is they are testing you. As women we put so much weight in the small things in a relationship that we don’t always realize many men do the same thing. How you deal with his not calling you says a lot about how you feel about the relationship. If you react strongly and get very emotional when he doesn’t call, he’s going to immediately see that you’re very invested in him and depending on his feelings that will either reassure him or turn him off. Never lose sight of the fact that men love the thrill of the chase and if he feels that you’re already completely his, you may actually be a little less appealing to him. If he doesn’t call, don’t overreact. You don’t want him to think that he’s the center of your universe. As much as we love knowing our men feel that way about us, men don’t find it nearly as romantic or endearing.