Dating Tips For Men – The iPod For 2 Technique

Here is a Super simple technique to help get you through those occasionally awkward first few minutes of a ‘date.’ Although it can be used at any time throughout the meeting.

We call it:

‘Ipod for 2′

Now this technique works in almost any environment and most situations.

So here’s a scenario:  You’ve just met a girl by the subway station near your house. (you got her to come to meet you right?:)  It is your first ‘date’ and you are wearing an Ipod. You say your Hello’s, and begin some playful banter.

Step 1:  As you are walking along the street towards your destination, you say “Oh Wow, you have got to listen to this.”

And hand her just one of the earbuds.  (If you’re feeling bold, go ahead and stick it in her ear for her;) The key is that the other earbud stays in your ear, preferably the one closer to her…

Step 2:  Play whatever song you want.  The trick is to share something with her that you genuinely enjoy listening to and are hopefully even passionate about.  Just don’t play U2’s, “With or Without You” because that would just be lame.

In fact, to be on the safe side, stay away from anything too lovey dovey sounding.

Step 3: Just be with her as the music plays and keep heading towards your destination.  (Doesn’t matter if you’re stationary or sitting down btw)

The benefit of this technique is twofold;

1. You are sharing something with her that has meaning to you.  This sets the stage for her to share something personal back.

2. It isn’t possible to share Ipod headphones and NOT be constantly touching the person you’re sharing them with… The more music you play her, the more comfortable she is getting with your touch. And it is totally incidental! (How else could you both listen?)In other words, you have a legitimate and excusable reason to be that physically close to her.

‘Ipod for 2′ can be used anytime throughout the interaction, so don’t feel obligated to try it at the very beginning.

In fact, if the date is going well it has much more potential impact when used after some initial bonding has occurred.

Dating Tips For Men: How To Avoid Anxiety on Your Date

Here’s a quick tip that will help you reduce any anxiety you are feeling around her…I call it “Imagine that…”And it works.  So try it the next time you have a date or are making an approach.Quite simply you are going to imagine something specific about her.For example, I have red hair…So I like to imagine that she is total nympho when it comes to redheads.Or, as mentioned in a previous email, if she is particularly tall and blonde you could imagine that her nickname in high school was ‘Bigbird’.  Or sometimes I like to identify an idiosyncrasy or mannerism she has…Maybe she adjusts her shirt a lot, or perhaps I notice that she purses her lips to one side occasionally.  It really can be just about anything…The next step is to label the behavior; so every time she adjusts her shirt, your interpretation could be that she is getting extremely horny.Now before you go out and start experimenting with this powerful technique, I want to point out a couple of things:1. These kind of visualizations are for you and you alone to be aware of.  They are designed to reduce anxiety and build confidence.  In other words, you don’t want give away what you are thinking by actually CALLING her Big Bird or pointing out that she must be getting really horny.2.  The examples I stated above are just that; examples.  This technique becomes much more effective when you tailor it to your own circumstances.  I call it “Imagine that…” because you have to use your imagination to come up with your own unique visualizations. But the framework is yours now.  Use it. Julian

Dating Tips For Men: Improving Your Calibration

I gotta tell you that I’m constantly hearing guys talk about calibration.

But what does calibration REALLY mean in relation to dating?

You could open the dictionary and easily look up a dozen different definitions for the word.

But there is one in particular I think all Pickup Artists should memorize:

cal·i·brate [kal-uh-breyt] -verb

-to determine the correct range for (an artillery gun, mortar, etc.) by observing where the fired projectile hits.

Please read that again because it is a perfect analogy for what we are trying to accomplish in a seduction.

Every guru and their mother make reference to calibration but tend to be extremely vague when talking about how to IMPROVE IT.

I’ve heard all sorts of crap, everything from “You just have to practice more” to “Calibration can’t be taught, that’s why naturals are naturals.”

Such bullshit. If I could put a sound effect in right now it would be that annoying buzzer from Family Feud.

Of course calibration can be improved! And I’m going to show you a technique that will do it.

It’s called:

‘Imaginary Action Reversal’

In a nutshell it’s quite simple…

Before you start down a risky conversational topic, send a text message, make a phone call, go in for the kiss, or any other assortment of actions you might take with a woman, it is useful to IMAGINE that whatever you are about to do…she does to you instead!

Then ask yourself:

“Did I just get MORE attracted or LESS attracted to her?”

And finally, allow your intuitive response to guide your decision whether or not to make the move.

Think about it…

Who is the best judge you have to determine if an action is ‘attractive’ or not?

You guessed it, it’s YOU.

I know men are from Mars and woman are from Jupiter or whatever, but we sure got a lot of things in common and one of those things is definitely attraction.

Behavior that normally turns me off, usually turns a woman off. And behavior that normally turns me on, usually turns a woman on.

We are not as different as society has us believe.

So if you’d like to take your own calibration to the next level, here is a quick recap of the steps:

1. You get an impulse to say or do something that relates to her

2. You imagine HER saying or doing it to YOU

3. You pay attention to your own emotional response (to the image) and let the quality of your response determine whether or not you go through with the action.

Easy as Pie.

Practicing this exercise is simple, fun, and an amazingly effective way of developing pin-point calibration.

Have fun,

Julian

PS:  Depending on the situation, the amount of TIME you have to use the technique is a factor.  You don’t want to interrupt the flow of a good conversation if you don’t have to.

Just be confident that the more comfortable you become with  Imaginary Action Reversal, the faster you will get, and eventually it will become something you are always subliminally aware of.

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