So this time I’m going to give you one of the most simple dating tips that will instantly pump up your phone game…

This technique is called: ‘Sit Like A Procurer’

Yeah, you read right, but bear with me for a minute.

Just before you call a lady you may be interested in (or perhaps she’s calling you), it is extremely helpful to sit down, and get into a comfortable ‘Procurer-like’ physical position.  If you are not sure what that looks like go watch  ‘Hustle n’ Flow’ or turn on BET.

The key to finding your own personal inner Procurer is one thing:

Comfort. Physical comfort is your gauge.  If you like to sit in the couch with your legs crossed, then go ahead. I personally like to lean back, stretch my legs out, and take up as much space as I want.

Try to follow this dating advice now if you have a couch, a comfortable chair, or just anything where you can suit yourself.  Maybe grab a rocks glass and try it with a drink in your hand if it helps.  Practice it until you’ve got it.

Phase 2:  Now call a girl you’ve been interested in, but make sure you are ‘Sittin’ like a Procurer.’  Stay in position throughout the phone call and notice if and when you begin to reflexively change into a less comfortable position.

What you will probably find in this dating advice is that this new ‘Procurer-like’ physical position is going to accomplish two things:

A) It will automatically put you into a more dominant and relaxed frame.  This will bring your mind into a clearer state which will let you think of some appropriate conversational techniques to use towards her.

B) It will help to relieve any excess anxiety you may be experiencing over calling her.

Remember: It will be a lot easier to avoid experiencing emotional distress when you are physically relaxed.

WARNING:  Do not take this too far!  The exercise is ‘Sit like a Procurer’ NOT ‘Smack her in the face if she don’t got my loot!’

I call it- ‘Perfume to Her Room’

I usually use it on a first date, but for the more advanced it can also be used immediately after opening her. Lets assume for this example that you are meeting her at a bar for a date and you’ve just walked in.(Because naturally you were later than her right?;)

Step 1: Establish a reason to get physically close to her. (hug, high five, doesn’t matter)

Step 2: Notice her perfume.

Step 3: Say something like: “Oh my God, what is that?? That smells amazing!” Even if it stinks. You now have a legitimate reason to continue smelling her throughout the evening.

Step 4: Look for opportunities throughout the interaction to keep smelling her. You can say something like, “Man, your perfume really is great, I gotta smell that again.” Don’t ask for permission to smell it, you simply can’t resist!

Providing you are both having a decent time this trick will allow you to smoothly transition from innocently smelling her to eventually nuzzling your face in her neck.

Now at some point she will become totally conscious of what you are doing…but that’s okay! Usually by the time that happens you’ve already created a good amount of intimacy and she is fine with it.

So you may be wondering, ‘how many times over the course of a date should I actually smell her?’

As many as you like. Usually I am in the ballpark of 4-8. The important thing is not how many times, but whether or not each time is progressively becoming more intimate.

You may also be wondering, ‘when is the best time to do it?’

I personally like to save it for right after a highpoint in the interaction. (A shared laugh, a moment of meaningful eye contact, etc.) However, the technique can also function as a failsafe to pull out of your back pocket if you run out of things to talk about or you want to change the subject.

And finally, what happens when she says, “I’m not wearing any perfume.” Simple adjustment: Do everything explained above just change the word perfume to soap or even natural scent. Ex: “Not perfume?? No way, I don’t believe you. Let me check again… (you double check;) Well, you’ve got the best damn natural scent I’ve ever smelled. Wow.”