Dating Tips For Men: How To Avoid Anxiety on Your Date

Here’s a quick tip that will help you reduce any anxiety you are feeling around her…I call it “Imagine that…”And it works.  So try it the next time you have a date or are making an approach.Quite simply you are going to imagine something specific about her.For example, I have red hair…So I like to imagine that she is total nympho when it comes to redheads.Or, as mentioned in a previous email, if she is particularly tall and blonde you could imagine that her nickname in high school was ‘Bigbird’.  Or sometimes I like to identify an idiosyncrasy or mannerism she has…Maybe she adjusts her shirt a lot, or perhaps I notice that she purses her lips to one side occasionally.  It really can be just about anything…The next step is to label the behavior; so every time she adjusts her shirt, your interpretation could be that she is getting extremely horny.Now before you go out and start experimenting with this powerful technique, I want to point out a couple of things:1. These kind of visualizations are for you and you alone to be aware of.  They are designed to reduce anxiety and build confidence.  In other words, you don’t want give away what you are thinking by actually CALLING her Big Bird or pointing out that she must be getting really horny.2.  The examples I stated above are just that; examples.  This technique becomes much more effective when you tailor it to your own circumstances.  I call it “Imagine that…” because you have to use your imagination to come up with your own unique visualizations. But the framework is yours now.  Use it. Julian

Dating Tips For Men: Improving Your Calibration

I gotta tell you that I’m constantly hearing guys talk about calibration.

But what does calibration REALLY mean in relation to dating?

You could open the dictionary and easily look up a dozen different definitions for the word.

But there is one in particular I think all Pickup Artists should memorize:

cal·i·brate [kal-uh-breyt] -verb

-to determine the correct range for (an artillery gun, mortar, etc.) by observing where the fired projectile hits.

Please read that again because it is a perfect analogy for what we are trying to accomplish in a seduction.

Every guru and their mother make reference to calibration but tend to be extremely vague when talking about how to IMPROVE IT.

I’ve heard all sorts of crap, everything from “You just have to practice more” to “Calibration can’t be taught, that’s why naturals are naturals.”

Such bullshit. If I could put a sound effect in right now it would be that annoying buzzer from Family Feud.

Of course calibration can be improved! And I’m going to show you a technique that will do it.

It’s called:

‘Imaginary Action Reversal’

In a nutshell it’s quite simple…

Before you start down a risky conversational topic, send a text message, make a phone call, go in for the kiss, or any other assortment of actions you might take with a woman, it is useful to IMAGINE that whatever you are about to do…she does to you instead!

Then ask yourself:

“Did I just get MORE attracted or LESS attracted to her?”

And finally, allow your intuitive response to guide your decision whether or not to make the move.

Think about it…

Who is the best judge you have to determine if an action is ‘attractive’ or not?

You guessed it, it’s YOU.

I know men are from Mars and woman are from Jupiter or whatever, but we sure got a lot of things in common and one of those things is definitely attraction.

Behavior that normally turns me off, usually turns a woman off. And behavior that normally turns me on, usually turns a woman on.

We are not as different as society has us believe.

So if you’d like to take your own calibration to the next level, here is a quick recap of the steps:

1. You get an impulse to say or do something that relates to her

2. You imagine HER saying or doing it to YOU

3. You pay attention to your own emotional response (to the image) and let the quality of your response determine whether or not you go through with the action.

Easy as Pie.

Practicing this exercise is simple, fun, and an amazingly effective way of developing pin-point calibration.

Have fun,

Julian

PS:  Depending on the situation, the amount of TIME you have to use the technique is a factor.  You don’t want to interrupt the flow of a good conversation if you don’t have to.

Just be confident that the more comfortable you become with  Imaginary Action Reversal, the faster you will get, and eventually it will become something you are always subliminally aware of.

Dating Tips For Men: Know How To Meet Attractive Women

Here’s one of my treasured secrets to meeting beautiful girls…Although in order to make it work you do have to live in a fairly metropolitan area. So if you’re reading this from a farm, feel free to skip this email.Still here?Good:)The first thing you need to do is to find out which newspapers or websites in your area cater to actors and models.I live in NYC, so obviously there are plenty of options: Backstage, The Ross Reports, Actors Access, etc. Once you’ve figured out the publications that are serving your local ‘dramatic’ community, the next thing to do is to use them to identify the major casting offices and modeling agencies in your area.  In New York there are hundreds, but most cities have at least a handful. Phase 2 is to look at the ads and determine WHEN particular offices are holding auditions or castings that hot girls would go to…Example of an ad you should put a gold star next to-”Short Indy Film- Horror- Looking for male lead and also looking to cast 3 gorgeous blondes as main characters. Must be busty and comfortable with nudity.  Auditions will held at …”Yeah, I’d be goin to that one…Another example of an ad you might want to circle-”Models Wanted! New Agency is looking for *your towns* newest and hottest talent, come wearing form fitting clothing at the such and such mall on…”Phase 3 is you show up.The best thing to do is to stake out a coffee shop right next door to the office or event and start watching for the girls you want to approach as they leave the casting.If you’re really bold, you could actually try going to the casting yourself, although I would only recommend this for advanced guys.  (As you may have some casting assistant sticking her nose in your face, asking you questions.)Now all this might seem like quite a bit of trouble to go through just to meet women…But many of my clients actually set aside afternoons to practice their ‘Daygame.’ So if you do that too, why not put yourself in an environment that has the absolute highest concentration of HOT, STEADILY ROTATING girls you will find anywhere?Not to mention that these hotties tend to have less of a defensive posture than you will find in the clubs and are more receptive to being ‘picked up.’It takes a little bit of motivation to see this through, but believe me, the potential rewards are worth it.

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