Dating Tip: Four Blogging Strategies to Arouse Her Interest, & Make Her Think About You Nonstop

One of the hardest, but most important, attraction tools to initiate and maintain after meeting a potential mate or sex partner is to pique her interest, arouse her passion, and raise her curiosity levels early on. You only get small amount of time before you’re making a touchdown in the friend zone on the team you don’t want to be playing on. Avoid this draft.
You want to get her thinking you are a smart, witty, sensual, and a potential dating material early on. Because women are always looking for the hidden meaning, or “what is he really saying,” and enjoy dissecting your words, you will have a great advantage over many other men if you can maintain an interesting and engaging blog and can get her to start reading soon after she meets you.
It’s like creating your own real-time, updatable, dating site profile that she comes back to again and again, feening and hungry for knowledge about you to sink her teeth into and wrap her overanalyzing brain around.
I won’t go into how to get a blog, there are tons of user-friendly platforms out there (Blogger, Livejournal, WordPress), and you can figure it out. After you get a blog, there are at least four strategies to help you get started building her info-obsession and I will lay them out for you, but first I want to give you a little background.
My Own Obsession Seeding Blog Experience-
I started blogging my junior year in college around late 2001, way before blogging was even cool. I soon found out the unspoken rules, drama, as well as accidentally discovered some unique advantages and relationship-jump starter benefits I would have never had imagined possible by putting a few paragraphs online.
I have to admit, I probably scored at least three long-term girlfriends, 20 acquaintances/friends, and a dozen dates over a four year period purely from bloggin’ it up. I kept them reading months, even years, after the relationship was over. I know for a fact these girls would continue to read my blog if I updated often enough. I am sure they eventually trailed off after not updating for months. My words echoed in their skulls and yours can too with the proper training and advice.
First, you must understand I never did anything to blatantly get a reaction (ok maybe a couple of times). That is the beauty of it: A blog is supposed to be your true feelings, thoughts, and stories. Similar to a newspaper, if it’s put in print (even digital print), it must be true and a woman can not argue with that logic when it comes to feelings because it is there own. Feelings should be trusted as truth indicators for which you can not be blamed.
Now, the Four Strategies:
1. The Unveiling – Keep it Subtle
After you’ve gone on one date, regardless of where you met her, mention that you have a blog that you keep up with that your friends read. She’ll think it is nice that you considered her a friend, then send her the address. Now that you have baited your hook, take the next step, but do this oh so carefully. She she is mildly interested, she will then use the blog to gain a “deeper insight” to who you are the days following the date.
2. Me, Me, Meeeeee — Mention Her Once & She will be Hooked
People can not resist seeing their own name in print, as well as reading your thoughts and opinions about them. Casually mention her name in a post without any strong feelings toward or against her for the most effect. Psychological experiments prove variable interval reinforcement schedules (Google it) are the strongest for predicting consistent behavior.
She’ll come back over and over, wondering when is the next time you will write about her and possibly expose how you really feel.
3. Post about Past Dates & Dating Other Women
This may seem counter-intuitive, but it sucks her in like a line of coke does to Courtney Love. This works especially well, if they are dates from the past, but if you are seeing other people simultaneously talk about those dates too. Once she has been hooked by you mentioning her name, she is sure to think you may have talked about other dates with other women in past posts as she is clicking “previous” until her pointer finger is sore. It helps even more if you post the girls’ pictures in the entry.
Dummy Disclaimer
Only post the girl’s picture when each relationship has actually ended, or it might freak the subject of the post out slightly. Always take a picture down, if any past dating partners request.
End Disclaimer
Past dates will mostly likely never ask because, even if you do post it too early, the immediate EX won’t want to admit she is still reading your blog.
If you don’t have a lot of dates to write about, write about how some girl flirted with you or how you had a great time with your friends. If you can’t be seen as a mysterious writer guy that is highly sought after, you can at least be considered a fun guy that people like and has a life of his own without her. This is highly attractive as well. That is a subject for another dating tip article.
4. Go Deep, but Not too Deep
It is good to be thought-provoking and philosophical in your entries sometimes, but don’t overdo it. This should be obvious, but don’t whine, give self-pity, or share your deep-seeded childhood feelings and stories about how your uncle touched you. This isn’t therapy, it’s entertainment for yourself, others and to help you get that next date. Good luck!

10 Best Online Dating Safety Tips

When you’re meeting someone for the first time who you’ve met online whether through an online dating service or Christian Dating service or other online singles site there can be a certain nervousness, thrill or excitement when meeting face-to-face. But in spite of the thrill, you must always be on your guard when going out on a date with someone you hardly know whether an online date or not.
Here are the 10 best tips on online dating safety and advice to help you make the right choices and protect you from harm.
1. Don’t let him pick you up from your home, office or workplace. Arrange to meet in a busy public place. Avoid any secluded areas such as parks. If possible, try to double-date or go out with a group of people you know.
2. Don’t give him your home or work phone number, give him your cell phone number instead.
3. Go “Dutch treat” by paying your part or half of the lunch or dinner check. This way you won’t feel obligated in any way. Don’t arrange a date to get a free meal,
4. Do not drink any alcohol at a first meeting. Besides it not being good for you (it’s a neurotoxin) it will seriously affect your reasoning and judgment and lessen your inhibitions. You need to be fully aware for safety’s sake at this meeting.
5. Use your own car to get to the meeting place and make sure you have plenty of gas. Try to park in a busy place with lots of people around. Do not go to meet someone where their car is parked. Parking next to someone’s van can be worse, since women can be pulled into them easily and the sliding door slammed shut.
6. Some men may claim they are religious or are a Christian to further their case for being a safe date. These claims may be false. Even if you’ve met someone through a Christian Dating service online or other religious dating service be on guard. Use your own questioning to find out whether someone is truthful or not. For example ask what their favorite bible passage is?
7. Make sure not to reveal your home address or work address. If the meeting has gone well and you feel safe and want to see him again, then arrange for a second date and take it from there.
8. Listen to your intuition. If something doesn’t feel just right, it probably isn’t. If this is the first date and you know right at the beginning or early in the date that something isn’t quite right or doesn’t feel right, then make a quick excuse and leave immediately. If you can’t think of an excuse, say you think you have food poisoning and feel like throwing up and it’s getting worse and say you’re sorry and leave. This is better than being the victim of a predator.
9. Always let a friend or someone you know exactly where you’re going and who you’ll be meeting with including any email addresses or phone numbers you have for the date. If possible arrange a time to call a friend and check in. Tell your date you’re meeting friends later and do so if possible. If you don’t call or appear than friends can call you on your cell phone or call the police or whatever you’ve decide in advance is appropriate. Have 911 programmed into your cell phone.
10. Finally always remain aware of your surroundings and be on alert. Even if you’re having a great time and the chemistry is great, it’s a good idea to remain alert the whole evening. Many con artists are very charming, persuasive and can win you over easily.
Online dating safety is crucial. In the beginning stages of dating, you’re still getting to know someone you know very little about. By creating a safe online dating and meeting environment and getting to know the person, you’re creating a safer situation for you. Good Christian Dating services, sites, agencies and networks and other Internet religious dating services can help eliminate some of the problems but ultimately you need to be vigilant yourself. Many singles have met and formed great friendships, relationships and love relationships through online dating services and you can too.

10 Tips for a Successful First Date

Here’s some tips for going on a first date to help you make sure that you’re taking your relationship where you want it to go.

Take her somewhere that you go often. You’ll give yourself a lot of credibility and value if you take her to place where everyone knows you. Stop and chat with the staff there. Learn their names and make sure they know yours. It only says good things about you. If you don’t have a place like this yet, make one.

Take her to an interesting restaurant. It’s a lot more fun to go eat sushi or some type of authentic ethnic food than just going to a more common restaurant. You don’t want it too be so interesting that there’s always something crazy going on and you can’t talk to her. Just make sure it is a little different.

Relax. The more you relax and show that you’re comfortable, the more your date will relax. If you feel like you’re getting nervous or tense, just take a deep breath, relax your shoulder muscles and smile. Just focus on having a good time.

Get rid of your expectations. So many guys that I meet wrap expectations around everything they do. They think, “buying dinner = she’s going to be my girlfriend or wife.” If you just spend the time that you’re together having a good time, acting like you would around someone you already know well and show that you couldn’t care less if anything happens between the two of you, you’ll have a much better chance of progressing things than if you act like she’s the first girl you’ve seen in twenty years, acting really nervous and so dumb that she runs away.

Don’t talk about normal boring topics or “guy topics”. If you want to be like every other boring guy out there, talk about what job she has, where she has gone to or goes to college. Only talk about guy topics like sports, lifting weights or something like that if SHE is already very interested in them. Also, don’t cling to a topic like it’s the only thing you can talk about. If a conversation dies, let it go.

Have a story or two that you can tell if you run out of things to say. One of the best ways to keep a conversation going is to have a few stories that you can tell at any time. When the conversation stops, just say, “Anyway,” and go into a story. The story doesn’t have to be something too amazing, just a little bit different.

Tell a story about a date that you went on where your date did something embarrassing or funny. Women love to talk about relationships and I’ve found that they are the easiest to come up with. If you’re having problems, just grab a girly magazine and read it for 15 minutes. You should find more than enough things to talk about in there.

Know a little bit about a lot of things. You can ask me about almost anything and I probably know enough about it to talk for at least 5 minutes. The more you know about, the easier it will be to hold conversations on just about any topic.

If your date wants to talk, listen to her. People like to talk and get the feeling that what they have to say is important. This doesn’t mean that you should ask her endless questions trying to get her to talk. If she’s not talking, feel free to. But, don’t interrupt her if she is.

Don’t try to impress your date. One of the worst things a guy can do is talk about how much money he has, what kind of a car he drives or anything else that comes across as trying hard to impress. If you do have a cool house or car, let her find out when she sees it. And if she isn’t impressed by it, don’t be surprised. You’re much better off by just being a relaxed, fun, cool guy than you are trying to impress her.

Have a plan. You should have your date planned in advance. And although you should have it planned, you should also be flexible. If something comes up that could be a lot of fun, don’t be so rigid that you can’t change plans. Your plan should be more of a guideline so that you always have something to do.

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