First Date Tips for the Ladies

The first date is truly one of the greatest events in a ladies life.  You are in search for that guy that you’ll spend the rest of your life with.  And you may have a lot of ideas of what you want in a man and already have the wedding mapped out in your head.   But no matter what you have on your mind, going on a first date shouldn’t be a high pressure situation and there are some very simply things I’d have you follow to make it a success.Here are 10 great first date tips you can use when going out with someone for the first time.  They are meant for you to reflect on so you can impress the pants off that man that you want to make your own. 1) First and foremost, make sure you are doing something you both enjoy doing.  Do something that will put you more at ease so you can concentrate on the rest of the tips below.  If you are having a miserable time, you should expect the same results overall.  You should be spending time getting to know each other not complaining about what you are doing.2) Whatever you are doing, make sure it isn’t so intense that it takes all the focus off of your conversation and getting to know each other. 3) Have a good plan. Don’t just leave things up in the air. You can be flexible. That’s not bad.  But have a pretty good idea of what you’ll be doing.4) Even if you feel you are having the best date you’ve had for a very long time, never, ever tell him that he is a nice guy.  Truly, there is something in many, not all, men that will turn him off; nice guys don’t always finish first!  Or so it’s perceived.5) A sense of humor is so very important in every relationship.  So make a point to explore this on your first date.  See if you can get him to crack a smile and laugh with one of your favorite jokes.  If you can’t get him to laugh, that could be a sign that there is something missing in your connection. He may not ‘get’ you!6) Do your best to be yourself and, above all, don’t lie! People sometimes try too hard to impress and in various ways aren’t themselves. They might even bend the truth.  That can really backfire at a later time.  Just relax and things will go a whole lot smoother.  7) You don’t want to quit and walk out on him if you can help it.  But things can go really bad.  If they do, have a way to contact a friend and devise a way to leave early. And shake it off.  Dating is a numbers game.  The next date will likely be better!8) Take things slow on the first date.  There is no reason to pressure him to spill all his guts and make him uncomfortable.  You don’t need to talk involving the deep subjects like religion and politics the first time being together.  Don’t judge them to quickly or harshly.  Keep an open mind about this and just have fun!9) If the date turns out to be a dud, just be honest with him.  Tell him how you feel if you want.  But just think of it like you are just out with a friend then.  There’s no reason you can’t still have a good time.  And tomorrow, get back on that horse.  There are millions of singles out there; no reason to fret!10) If this is someone you met, a type of blind date, someone you just corresponded with on the Internet, then be very, very careful. Meet somewhere there are plenty of other people and don’t be as open as you normally would and tell them everything regarding your life.  Don’t give away all your private secrets etc..I hope these tips help!  You don’t want to make the first time too stressful.  Take all the things above into consideration and just have fun.  Enjoy yourself.  And if you find yourself out with someone else that is doing the same, it could be your soul mate! -Joe Taylor

First Date Questions Answered for Guys

Did you ask a beautiful, stunning and fun lady out on a date?  Great!  The ‘asking’ is often 75% of the battle.  And she said yes?  Wow!  You’re probably pretty excited.  Note however that as the date gets closer, that excitement might start to turn to nerves.As the date gets closer you’re going to be thinking a lot about how you are going to act, what you are going to wear.  You’ll need to get your car cleaned out and washed.  You might even need a hair cut!  Where are you going to go?  If you have first date questions, here are some things to consider to put your mind at ease and make the actual date fun and relaxed.  – Knowing What You Are Doing Before You Are Doing ItFirst of all, stick to the original plan.  Don’t spring something on her that wasn’t mentioned in your initial conversation.  Stick to the plan.  Don’t decide to go to a different destination without her knowing about it before that day.  If you do spring something on her, there is a very good chance it could backfire big time.  Little things are ok, but don’t make huge changes. You don’t know what you want to do and weren’t sure when you last talked to her?  Well, let’s get cracking!  You don’t want to wait until the last minute.  Don’t be afraid to ask her for ideas too. That’s fine.  Why not better the chances of her having a good time.  Remember, this isn’t about you.  If you remember that, you’ll have greater success.  So what’s it going to be?  Are you going to take her to see a film?  To a fancy restaurant?  Maybe a concert to go see her favorite band.    Plan how you are going to both get to the destinations.  Your best bet is to pick her up at her house and take her on the date.  But if there are odd circumstances, no worries.  As long as she’s ok with it and tells you so.- What Else Do You Have to Think About Before the Date?Let’s face it, you’re a guy.  Chances are you aren’t going to have the date all planned and be ready for everything days in advance. But try to have the most important things prepared.  Things like funds is an important consideration before that day.  Know about how much this is going to cost you and I’d recommend having at least double that on you and available.  Seriously, you don’t actually know where this date will take you.  Some of the best dates I’ve been on ended up doing some spontaneous thing that cost more money, but made all the difference in it’s success!And make sure you are showered.  I would recommend no further back then a few hours before the date starts.  Clean yourself up, shave.  Smell nice; no, slapping on a ton of cologne is not the answer.  In fact, my advice is to be mellow with the smells.  Make sure your clothes are ironed.  Those type of things.  If you have to get off work early or make adjustments to your regular schedule to make sure you have enough time to get ready, prepare for that.- You’re On the Date!This should be the easy part if you have prepared yourself.  This is where the fun should begin.  Relax and have a good time.  And make her the center of the universe for you that evening.  This show isn’t about you!Be on time of course.  Don’t keep her waiting for anything.Ask her about herself.  Women love talking about themselves.  They love talking about what’s going on in their lives, their friends and their family.  Hopefully she’ll ask about what’s going on with you, but don’t force that.  And don’t only talk about you.  Be calm with your conversation.  Pause and give her time to respond.There will always be awkward moments; no date is perfect.  There will always be pauses in the conversation and one of you is likely to say something slightly embarrassing.  If your first date doesn’t go as planned, don’t panic.  Hopefully, you will have a second chance to make a good impression.-Joe Taylor