Dating Tip: Four Blogging Strategies to Arouse Her Interest, & Make Her Think About You Nonstop

One of the hardest, but most important, attraction tools to initiate and maintain after meeting a potential mate or sex partner is to pique her interest, arouse her passion, and raise her curiosity levels early on. You only get small amount of time before you’re making a touchdown in the friend zone on the team you don’t want to be playing on. Avoid this draft.
You want to get her thinking you are a smart, witty, sensual, and a potential dating material early on. Because women are always looking for the hidden meaning, or “what is he really saying,” and enjoy dissecting your words, you will have a great advantage over many other men if you can maintain an interesting and engaging blog and can get her to start reading soon after she meets you.
It’s like creating your own real-time, updatable, dating site profile that she comes back to again and again, feening and hungry for knowledge about you to sink her teeth into and wrap her overanalyzing brain around.
I won’t go into how to get a blog, there are tons of user-friendly platforms out there (Blogger, Livejournal, WordPress), and you can figure it out. After you get a blog, there are at least four strategies to help you get started building her info-obsession and I will lay them out for you, but first I want to give you a little background.
My Own Obsession Seeding Blog Experience-
I started blogging my junior year in college around late 2001, way before blogging was even cool. I soon found out the unspoken rules, drama, as well as accidentally discovered some unique advantages and relationship-jump starter benefits I would have never had imagined possible by putting a few paragraphs online.
I have to admit, I probably scored at least three long-term girlfriends, 20 acquaintances/friends, and a dozen dates over a four year period purely from bloggin’ it up. I kept them reading months, even years, after the relationship was over. I know for a fact these girls would continue to read my blog if I updated often enough. I am sure they eventually trailed off after not updating for months. My words echoed in their skulls and yours can too with the proper training and advice.
First, you must understand I never did anything to blatantly get a reaction (ok maybe a couple of times). That is the beauty of it: A blog is supposed to be your true feelings, thoughts, and stories. Similar to a newspaper, if it’s put in print (even digital print), it must be true and a woman can not argue with that logic when it comes to feelings because it is there own. Feelings should be trusted as truth indicators for which you can not be blamed.
Now, the Four Strategies:
1. The Unveiling – Keep it Subtle
After you’ve gone on one date, regardless of where you met her, mention that you have a blog that you keep up with that your friends read. She’ll think it is nice that you considered her a friend, then send her the address. Now that you have baited your hook, take the next step, but do this oh so carefully. She she is mildly interested, she will then use the blog to gain a “deeper insight” to who you are the days following the date.
2. Me, Me, Meeeeee — Mention Her Once & She will be Hooked
People can not resist seeing their own name in print, as well as reading your thoughts and opinions about them. Casually mention her name in a post without any strong feelings toward or against her for the most effect. Psychological experiments prove variable interval reinforcement schedules (Google it) are the strongest for predicting consistent behavior.
She’ll come back over and over, wondering when is the next time you will write about her and possibly expose how you really feel.
3. Post about Past Dates & Dating Other Women
This may seem counter-intuitive, but it sucks her in like a line of coke does to Courtney Love. This works especially well, if they are dates from the past, but if you are seeing other people simultaneously talk about those dates too. Once she has been hooked by you mentioning her name, she is sure to think you may have talked about other dates with other women in past posts as she is clicking “previous” until her pointer finger is sore. It helps even more if you post the girls’ pictures in the entry.
Dummy Disclaimer
Only post the girl’s picture when each relationship has actually ended, or it might freak the subject of the post out slightly. Always take a picture down, if any past dating partners request.
End Disclaimer
Past dates will mostly likely never ask because, even if you do post it too early, the immediate EX won’t want to admit she is still reading your blog.
If you don’t have a lot of dates to write about, write about how some girl flirted with you or how you had a great time with your friends. If you can’t be seen as a mysterious writer guy that is highly sought after, you can at least be considered a fun guy that people like and has a life of his own without her. This is highly attractive as well. That is a subject for another dating tip article.
4. Go Deep, but Not too Deep
It is good to be thought-provoking and philosophical in your entries sometimes, but don’t overdo it. This should be obvious, but don’t whine, give self-pity, or share your deep-seeded childhood feelings and stories about how your uncle touched you. This isn’t therapy, it’s entertainment for yourself, others and to help you get that next date. Good luck!

Dating Tip : 5 Effective Ways to Impress Your Date

Struggling for ideas on how to impress your date? In this dating tip guide, I have outlined 5 effective ways to set your lady’s heart pumping into overdrive.

1. Make her feel special

If you can make her feel like a queen for a day, then half the job is done. Women somehow find it really irresistible, and will even be turned-on if she is being made to feel special. Show her that you value her company by telling her so over a nice romantic candle-light dinner. Pull out the chair for her. Open the door for her. Bark at the waiter if he is rude to her. These are little things that will make her think that you really cared about her.

2. Focus your attention solely on her

When going out with your date, make sure that you focus all of your attention on her. Yes, all of your attention, 100%. Never let your eyes wander about. You may find it hard not to steal a glance at that hot and sexy chick in the micro-mini walking past you. But please, for the sake of your date, don’t look at that hot chick. Continue to focus totally on your date. You wouldn’t want to be caught in a situation where she is talking to you, and yet your eyeballs are looking at something more interesting.

And when you are sitting down with her at dinner, make sure that you maintain eye contact with her, especially when she is talking. When she talks, you listen, occasionally nodding to show your approval. Make her feel as if she matters most to you than all the women out there.

3. Refrain from talking about your past relationships

You may have some very happy memories from your past relationships, or you may have screwed up some of them big time. Whatever it is, your date will not be interested in all of them. Sure, talking about your past relationships can bring back fond memories, but you can bet your last dollar that she will lose interest totally. Why? Because you are telling her that you can’t let go of the past to step into the present. Which would mean that if she continues to be with you, she will be taking a step back instead of moving forward. Then soon you will realize that your story telling is turning her off.

So as a dating tip, always be willing to let go, and move on. Learn to live and let live.

4. Be sincere and genuine

Sincerity is the way to go. Your date will feel more comfortable if you can show her that you are really sincere about developing a relationship with her. In order to show your sincerity, you must first be your genuine self. Just be your natural best, and take it from there. Besides making her feel comfortable with you, your sincerity will also take a lot of pressure off her in order to impress you.

5. Keep your eyes wide open and be observant.

When you are with your date, keep your eyes wide open, and observe her every step. OK, maybe not her every walking step, but at the very least, take note of the things that she likes. Her favourite colour, her favourite chocolate, her favourite flower, her favourite dish. And to add an element of surprise, buy her the dress that she had badly wanted. She will most certainly be so impressed by your ability to pay attention to details that she will literally melt under your spell.

Dating Tip : A Loser’s Guide to Success in the Dating Game (Part 1)

There is a familiar saying that goes like this : Nice guys always finish last. And what do we call guys who always finish last? Yes, that’s right. Losers. That is the painful price to pay for being a loser.

And when it comes to the dating game, losers inevitably find themselves at the wrong end of countless rejections. But you certainly can’t fault them for not trying. Or maybe they tried too hard to be a nice guy. And they just don’t understand why the women they are interested in always fall for someone who is obviously richer and better looking, but is obnoxious, rude, has got a stinking attitude, and a complete jerk.

Are you one of the losers? If yes, then I can understand how you are feeling right now. But fret not, because I am here to help you. In this dating tip guide, I will help transform you from a hopeless loser into an unstoppable winner in the dating game. Oh, don’t worry. At the end of it all, you can still retain your nice guy image. So let’s get started, shall we?

The 2 key elements : Spontaneity and Unpredictability

As a loser, you really despise those guys who are complete jerks, and who seem to be able to get any lady they want almost effortlessly. But just how on earth did they do it?

Let us take a look at their characters. They are usually spontaneous, unpredictable, mysterious, always fun to be with, and have a I-don’t-give-a-damn attitude. They basically set their own rules, and never let anyone mess around with them. And yes, they always look good and feel confident.

So where do you start? You can start off by being unpredictable and mysterious. I know you are very excited when you got her number. But hang on. Don’t call her immediately. What you are doing here is to keep her guessing and wondering when are you going to call, or if you are going to call at all. And when you do finally make the call, suggest some nice and safe ideas out of the blue to catch her completely off guard. Something like : “Let’s go sip some coffee/get some ice cream”, or this, “Let’s go for a walk by the sea and see where it leads us to.” You may surprised by your new-found spontaneity, but your lady will soon warm up to your unpredictability.

Be confident and decisive

It is a well-known fact that women will go nuts over men who are confident and decisive, and will always give them something to lean on. So when you are out on a date with your woman, take control of the whole situation. Always prepare a back-up plan, so that you don’t have to wait another 2 hours for a dinner table. Show your flexibility too, just in case she tells you that she prefers spaghetti, or that she likes some soothing music. Go for a low cost solution, like bringing her to watch her favorite kind of romantic movie, or bring her down to Starbucks for her favorite coffee.

No need to go for extravagance; simplicity is the way to go. Because the fact is, if she is interested in you, then it doesn’t matter if it is a simple date. She just want your company.

Pay attention to what she says

Pay attention. This is probably an area where a loser has a slight edge. Women always prefer verbal communication, and would love to have someone as a listening ear. So this is very simple : When she talks, you listen.

But don’t just listen, and think about something else. Take note of what she is telling you. She may reveal her favorite singer, her favorite movie star, her favorite dress, her favorite novel, and so on. And she will be so impressed if you can rattle off all the details about the things that mean a lot to her.

End of part 1.

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