Dating Tip : A Loser’s Guide to Success in the Dating Game (Part 1)

There is a familiar saying that goes like this : Nice guys always finish last. And what do we call guys who always finish last? Yes, that’s right. Losers. That is the painful price to pay for being a loser.

And when it comes to the dating game, losers inevitably find themselves at the wrong end of countless rejections. But you certainly can’t fault them for not trying. Or maybe they tried too hard to be a nice guy. And they just don’t understand why the women they are interested in always fall for someone who is obviously richer and better looking, but is obnoxious, rude, has got a stinking attitude, and a complete jerk.

Are you one of the losers? If yes, then I can understand how you are feeling right now. But fret not, because I am here to help you. In this dating tip guide, I will help transform you from a hopeless loser into an unstoppable winner in the dating game. Oh, don’t worry. At the end of it all, you can still retain your nice guy image. So let’s get started, shall we?

The 2 key elements : Spontaneity and Unpredictability

As a loser, you really despise those guys who are complete jerks, and who seem to be able to get any lady they want almost effortlessly. But just how on earth did they do it?

Let us take a look at their characters. They are usually spontaneous, unpredictable, mysterious, always fun to be with, and have a I-don’t-give-a-damn attitude. They basically set their own rules, and never let anyone mess around with them. And yes, they always look good and feel confident.

So where do you start? You can start off by being unpredictable and mysterious. I know you are very excited when you got her number. But hang on. Don’t call her immediately. What you are doing here is to keep her guessing and wondering when are you going to call, or if you are going to call at all. And when you do finally make the call, suggest some nice and safe ideas out of the blue to catch her completely off guard. Something like : “Let’s go sip some coffee/get some ice cream”, or this, “Let’s go for a walk by the sea and see where it leads us to.” You may surprised by your new-found spontaneity, but your lady will soon warm up to your unpredictability.

Be confident and decisive

It is a well-known fact that women will go nuts over men who are confident and decisive, and will always give them something to lean on. So when you are out on a date with your woman, take control of the whole situation. Always prepare a back-up plan, so that you don’t have to wait another 2 hours for a dinner table. Show your flexibility too, just in case she tells you that she prefers spaghetti, or that she likes some soothing music. Go for a low cost solution, like bringing her to watch her favorite kind of romantic movie, or bring her down to Starbucks for her favorite coffee.

No need to go for extravagance; simplicity is the way to go. Because the fact is, if she is interested in you, then it doesn’t matter if it is a simple date. She just want your company.

Pay attention to what she says

Pay attention. This is probably an area where a loser has a slight edge. Women always prefer verbal communication, and would love to have someone as a listening ear. So this is very simple : When she talks, you listen.

But don’t just listen, and think about something else. Take note of what she is telling you. She may reveal her favorite singer, her favorite movie star, her favorite dress, her favorite novel, and so on. And she will be so impressed if you can rattle off all the details about the things that mean a lot to her.

End of part 1.

Dating Tip : How to “Advertise” Yourself to Get Noticed by Women (Part 1)

At times, you must be wondering why some guys are getting all the attention. They seem to have a giant piece of magnet installed into their body, because they are able to attract women of all shapes and sizes to them almost effortlessly.

On the other hand, there some guys who just can’t seem to attract any kind of attention from the opposite sex. It is as if they are surrounded by a strong repelling force that women want to stay away from them.

So which of the above group of guys do you belong to? If you belong to the first group, then my advice to you is that you can stop reading this article. Yes, I am serious. Because the rest of this article is totally irrelevant to an attractive magnet like you.

If you belong to the second group, then I am sure you must have looked yourself in the mirror a thousand times, and asked yourself these burning questions : What else can I do to attract more attention from the women? What have I done wrong? Is it because of the things I said? Or maybe it is because of the way I look?

My friend, please do not despair. In this dating tip guide, I will show you how to advertise yourself in the right way in front of women, so that you can transform yourself from that dull and unattractive person into someone whom women love to fall head-over-heels with.

Show confidence, stay healthy

It is human nature that we are all attracted to people who present themselves confidently and who feel good about themselves. Women are especially turned-on by guys who exude a high level of confidence and charm. They find these types of guys incredibly attractive and irresistible.

So you can start off by just feeling good about yourself. Because if your are feeling good, then others around you will pick up the signal too. Feeling good does not necessarily mean that you must be ultra confident. You are simply sending out a message to the others that you are indeed a very positive person, and that you are someone who is worthwhile to be with.

In order to feel really good about yourself, you should look after your health. Women would rather be around someone who is healthy and vibrant, than someone who is pale, weak and frail-looking.

Smile more often

What are your first impressions of someone who don’t smile? Your first impressions will be that this person is negative, not friendly and not easily approachable. However, what if the person decides to smile at you? Your views will be very different. You will find this person warm, friendly and very approachable. So as you can see, a smile can really do wonders in an instant. It can brighten even your darkest days.

As a matter of fact, women would prefer to communicate with a guy who is always smiling, rather than a bloke who is sullen, and wears a blank expression on his face all the time.

So starting from today, smile more often. I guarantee that you will be pleasantly surprised by the reaction of other people when they see your smiling face.

Be enthusiastic about life

Come on, be more enthusiastic about life, will ya? Women like to be around a guy who is enthusiastic, vibrant and full of energy. They have the impression that these type of guys are always fun to be with. Of course, I am not saying that you must jump up and down like a monkey whenever you see a woman. But at least, show some energy and enthusiasm when you are talking. Talking in a monotone and a lifeless manner will most certainly put the people around you to sleep.

Be a good conversationalist

Women tend to be mentally stimulated by guys who have the ability to strike up intelligent conversations with them. Are you thinking : Oh, ok, so must I go and read all the encyclopedias in the world? Or must I be better than a rocket scientist? Heck, must I know everything about the Da Vinci code, right down to the fine details?

The answer to all the above questions is a big no. You will make your woman go crazy if you talk to her about all the physics that propels the rocket.

You see, it is good to gather some informative knowledge, but too much information can be harmful to your health, and your mental state in particular. So the best way to strike up an intelligent conversation is to use simple yet effective opening lines. Lines like :”I kinda liked your drink. May I know what is it?”, “I can’t help but notice your smooth and silky hair. How did you maintain it?” or “I see that you are reading this particular book. You must have liked the author?” should set the tone for a good conversation.

End of part 1.

Dating Tips for Men: What Is Her Problem?

From where you sit everything looks okay. You more often than not have a blast every time you and your girlfriend get together. The relationship in your opinion is hitting on all cylinders. So it’s understandable that you just don’t get it. You have done everything within your power to please your date and she is still not happy. That’s not to say she is miserable all the time. The two of you are still together. You like her and she has on more than a few occasions expressed her feeling towards you. 

But there are some things men do that really grate on women (no kidding right?). It’s not that these things cause women to end the relationship immediately. They may suffer through it silently, give you some subtle or not so subtle hints as to the nature of the problem or state it outright but for whatever reason it is just not registering with you.  It could be that whole men are from Mars, women are from Venus thing. We have all heard the rumors. 

Still there are a few things you need to be careful about when it comes to your dating relationship.

1. Showing Off

Very few people enjoy being around a braggart. Sure it’s okay to talk about the incredibly good things going on in your life. But many times the conversation can be about what’s going on in her life and yet you still find a way to turn the discussion back towards you.

May be you don’t say much of anything but when you go out, your date catches you strutting like a peacock. You are just too cool for words. Women are very good at noticing things and reading body language is one of them.

2. Chivalry On Life Support

It’s a new era as far as many of us are concerned. If women want to be treated as equals that’s okay with you but it’s not all gravy so they have to learn to take the good with the bad when it comes to equal treatment.

Scores of men miss the point about this. Women have always wanted to be treated as equals but that does not mean you stop treating them like ladies. In quite a few surveys women mention things like opening doors for them, helping them on with their coats or when walking together making sure she walks to the inside. They are such little tidbits that it’s no big deal one way or another. Right?   

Wrong. The fact that women talk about these things means that they are a big deal. Besides if acting like a gentleman can score you bonus points with your girlfriend then do it.

3. You Were Listening. Sort of. 

This is the one that probably does it for women more than showing off and lack of chivalry. Mainly because it sends out a couple of unmistakable signals: One is you have no respect for what she has to say and two, she is really not worth listening to. You may not mean any of those things but that is how it is coming across. If you want to put the future of your relationship in jeopardy then this is the way to do it.

We are who we are and there are some women who hold the flawed notion that they can change the man they are with so as to make him more suitable to their taste. That of course is a blueprint for trouble. But there is nothing wrong with practicing a little humility, good manners and better listening skills. Making her happy by doing the little things can only be to your benefit.

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