Dating Tip for Men: the Fine Line Between Confidence and Arrogance

You’ve been going out with this woman for awhile and it’s obvious she really likes you. That’s all well and good but it doesn’t mean she like everything about you.

It doesn’t mean you are a bad person as a matter of fact you are a pretty good guy if you do say so yourself. And that’s the problem.

Very few if any women are interested in a guy who’s afraid of his own shadow. Women like a man who feels good about himself as well as the environment around him. He’s comfortable with his place in the world and it shows. 

But it is all too easy in many instances for that self confidence to stray into arrogance territory.  How can you tell when it’s gone too far?

1. Are You Listening?  Do you have a tendency to tune out your date? Yes some women are experts in conversation domination so it’s not uncommon for the mind to stray from time to time. But arrogance you are never really listen. You might get bits and pieces of what your date is saying but more than anything you are just waiting for a lull so you can make your point irregardless of what she was talking about.  Usually you don’t even wait for that pause. You just cut straight thru like a runaway Mack truck.    

2. Are You Always Right?

You just can’t stand to lose an argument. Every discussion becomes a debate and you must win it at all cost. This means if you have to trash your date or point out repeatedly in no uncertain terms where and why they went wrong, then you do not have a problem with that. And what about the post debate wrap up? You are so wrapped up in your victory that you could care less that you have hurt her feelings. So what right? She should not have tangled with you on that particular subject. Of course with the arrogant male a particular subject turns into every subject.   3. Are You Always Building?

We all have goals we want to accomplish and dreams that we want to become reality. However when you are on a date, it’s amazing how the conversation always seems to get back to you. Your goals, your job, your possessions, your status etc, etc.  When your date decides to share some of her ambitions either you are not listening or you dismiss them (another sign of arrogance) so the spotlight can quickly get back to you.

Women not only like a confident man but respect him. It’s a good indicator as to whether they want to get to know you better. It also tells them that you are comfortable and open as to what they have to offer. You relish their input as equal to your own and have no problem learning from them. With arrogance there is only room for one person in the relationship and it’s not her.  

Dating Tip for Men: Examples of Arrogance on a Date

Dating Advice Tip: Why Old Fashion is Better Than Texting

It seem like with the advent of online dating services and social networks that dating has entered an entirely different stratosphere. To a certain degree it has. Now it is possible to meet someone in your neck of the woods instantaneously, have an online chat and decide from the comfort of your own home whether you want to pursue a relationship.

One other innovation also appears to be changing the dating rules.  With the arrival of the Blackberry, it is no longer necessary to pick up the phone to confirm a date you have set up. Now just compose a quick text message, hit send and your date receives your correspondence instantly. In this day and age it’s all about speed.

 These new fangled advancements maybe great for a number of things but sometimes the tried and true methods that worked for previous generations are still the best way to conduct yourself when it comes to dating.

1. Let’s go out

You may be using your Blackberry for all kinds of purposes. Yes it’s turned out to be a very helpful resource but when it comes to asking someone for a date it’s not a good idea. Besides it being somewhat impersonal, it also tells the other person, you have not quite worked up the nerve to pick up the phone and call them or ask them out face to face. Letting the other person see you and hear your voice will easily have a more powerful effect. You may have put a lot of passion into writing your text message but when it gets sent to your potential date it still comes off as cold. 

2. Will they or won’t they

Yes, you can call someone, ask for a date and not get an answer or meet that person face to face and get a non committal response.  At least with these two methods, your instincts and observation skills can let you know pretty much where you stand. In other words you have a clearer indication of whether to keep asking or move on. Texting someone for a date and not getting any type of feedback can having you going in a hundred different directions.

You thought they liked you so why are they not responding? May be for whatever reason they are not available right now. The whole point is because you have not communicated with them in a more direct manner you don’t know so you are left to guess as to what is going on. The mind can play terrible tricks on you when it thinks you have been left hanging.   

3. Sorry but you can’t make it

This one comes under the heading of playing with dynamite. They agreed to go out with you. If you cannot make it then at least give them the courtesy of a phone call or a face to face cancellation. Whether you mean it or not, breaking a date thru texting is a clear indicator you are running away as fast as you can.  If your date is anywhere near the periphery of your social circle, the chances are the word about your rudeness (and fear) will spread very quickly.  How the other person takes the cancellation is up to them but the least you can do is face up to your own actions by looking them in the eye or talking to them over the phone.

No doubt some of these new gadgets are tremendous time savers. They also can help when it comes to instantaneously coordinating the schedules and whereabouts of you and your date. But do not let it take the place of good old fashion manners. Whether you two get together or not a warm voice and body will always be more appreciated than distant words on a mini monitor.