How Do I Ask Someone Out On A Date?

Mike really likes Denise and has been wanting to ask her out for a long time. He first noticed Denise at his local gym two months ago and was attracted to her from the start. Mike has been wanting to ask Denise out on a date, but just doesn’t know how to. He’d really like to get to know Denise if he could.

Mike’s situation is like a lot of people who are interested in asking out someone special, but just don’t know how. Here are some tips to help you ask someone out on a date:

1) Get past your fear of being rejected by someone you may ask out on a date. If you fear that you may be rejected by someone you ask on a date, then you’ll never make it to first base! You’ve got to start somewhere. So, go ahead ask the person you’re interested in on a date. Do it now! If you get an answer of yes for the date, that’s great! If they say no by rejecting your request for a date, move on to your next potential date. Just because someone rejects you for a date, does not mean that the next person will! So pick your head up, and you’ll get that date with someone special that deserves you!

2) When you ask for a first date, try to avoid setting up your first date on a Friday or Saturday. These two nights are usually reserved for more serious dating. In other words, if you’re just starting out don’t start on a Friday or Saturday night until you get more serious about the person you’re dating. You might want to consider going out on a Wednesday or Thursday. These days seem to be more flexible for people during the week. Try to avoid dates on Monday’s if possible. Most people don’t care for Monday’s!

3) After approaching someone for a date, be specific when asking that person out for a date. For example, you could ask the person the following question: I’m interested in seeing a play at our local theater on either a Wednesday or Thursday would you be interested in attending? This question is able to provide the opportunity for your prospective date to have options on deciding if they want to go on the date with you and if so, they can choose the day they want to go on the date and other options such as meeting you at the theater, etc…

4) Consider when asking out someone for a date that you give them a sufficient amount of time for the date to take place. You may want to schedule the date a week in advance. However, you can always go with your gut feeling at the time if you think your prospective date will want to set that date sooner!

5) The best way to ask a person out is in person. You have the opportunity to see the person you’re wanting to date face to face and observe their body language and facial expressions.

Using some or all of these tips to assist you in asking for a date may help you from having no dates to having dates. Mike decided to ask Denise out by using these tips and they’ve been a couple every since their first date! They found they have a lot in common and enjoy each other’s company. Mike was glad he finally found the nerve by using these tips to ask Denise out on a date. Denise was glad he did too!

10 Tips for a Successful First Date

Here’s some tips for going on a first date to help you make sure that you’re taking your relationship where you want it to go.

Take her somewhere that you go often. You’ll give yourself a lot of credibility and value if you take her to place where everyone knows you. Stop and chat with the staff there. Learn their names and make sure they know yours. It only says good things about you. If you don’t have a place like this yet, make one.

Take her to an interesting restaurant. It’s a lot more fun to go eat sushi or some type of authentic ethnic food than just going to a more common restaurant. You don’t want it too be so interesting that there’s always something crazy going on and you can’t talk to her. Just make sure it is a little different.

Relax. The more you relax and show that you’re comfortable, the more your date will relax. If you feel like you’re getting nervous or tense, just take a deep breath, relax your shoulder muscles and smile. Just focus on having a good time.

Get rid of your expectations. So many guys that I meet wrap expectations around everything they do. They think, “buying dinner = she’s going to be my girlfriend or wife.” If you just spend the time that you’re together having a good time, acting like you would around someone you already know well and show that you couldn’t care less if anything happens between the two of you, you’ll have a much better chance of progressing things than if you act like she’s the first girl you’ve seen in twenty years, acting really nervous and so dumb that she runs away.

Don’t talk about normal boring topics or “guy topics”. If you want to be like every other boring guy out there, talk about what job she has, where she has gone to or goes to college. Only talk about guy topics like sports, lifting weights or something like that if SHE is already very interested in them. Also, don’t cling to a topic like it’s the only thing you can talk about. If a conversation dies, let it go.

Have a story or two that you can tell if you run out of things to say. One of the best ways to keep a conversation going is to have a few stories that you can tell at any time. When the conversation stops, just say, “Anyway,” and go into a story. The story doesn’t have to be something too amazing, just a little bit different.

Tell a story about a date that you went on where your date did something embarrassing or funny. Women love to talk about relationships and I’ve found that they are the easiest to come up with. If you’re having problems, just grab a girly magazine and read it for 15 minutes. You should find more than enough things to talk about in there.

Know a little bit about a lot of things. You can ask me about almost anything and I probably know enough about it to talk for at least 5 minutes. The more you know about, the easier it will be to hold conversations on just about any topic.

If your date wants to talk, listen to her. People like to talk and get the feeling that what they have to say is important. This doesn’t mean that you should ask her endless questions trying to get her to talk. If she’s not talking, feel free to. But, don’t interrupt her if she is.

Don’t try to impress your date. One of the worst things a guy can do is talk about how much money he has, what kind of a car he drives or anything else that comes across as trying hard to impress. If you do have a cool house or car, let her find out when she sees it. And if she isn’t impressed by it, don’t be surprised. You’re much better off by just being a relaxed, fun, cool guy than you are trying to impress her.

Have a plan. You should have your date planned in advance. And although you should have it planned, you should also be flexible. If something comes up that could be a lot of fun, don’t be so rigid that you can’t change plans. Your plan should be more of a guideline so that you always have something to do.

Simple Dating Tips for Men

If you have been unsuccessful in dating you may not know why. You may think that you are doomed to be alone or that there is just not anyone out there that you click with. There are women out there that want to meet a good man; you just need to know how to present yourself to be successful in the dating world. There are some very simple tips that you can apply to yourself and your dating life to help you be more successful.
Simple Tips to Follow
The first thing that you need do before you date is to take a shower! This sounds really simple, and even a little obvious, but you would be surprised how many guys show up to a date without showering and grooming. Before you go on a date be sure that you shower, shave, and look your best. Not only will you feel better, she will be able to tell that you prepared for the date, which means that you value her opinion of you. This will not go unnoticed!
Be on time! This is one of the biggest sticking points for women who are dating. If you are late you are sending her a message that you do not value her time and that you are not serious. Remember, women are analyzing everything about you and when you show up late you already have a few strikes against you going into the date, why start out at a disadvantage?
A woman likes a man who makes her feel like a woman. You can do this by being a gentleman by opening the doors for her, pulling out her chair, and just being polite. You should still be yourself, but just go out of your way to treat her like a lady and use the good manners that your Momma gave you! On this note, you should also take the opportunity to compliment her where it is appropriate, but dont compliment her too much because it will feel fake.
Listen to her! Women are not turned off by anything more than they are turned off by a man who doesn’t listen. Really take an interest in what she is saying and ask her a lot of questions. Women like nothing more than to have a man interested in her and what she is all about. So, listen to her when she is talking and really be interested, asking questions where appropriate.
If you follow these simple tips you will find that you will be a lot more successful on your dates. This is not going to guarantee you that you will be a success on every date, but it will give you that edge that you need to make a good impression. Dating is not difficult when you know how to present yourself to a woman.

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