First Date Tips for the Ladies

The first date is truly one of the greatest events in a ladies life.  You are in search for that guy that you’ll spend the rest of your life with.  And you may have a lot of ideas of what you want in a man and already have the wedding mapped out in your head.   But no matter what you have on your mind, going on a first date shouldn’t be a high pressure situation and there are some very simply things I’d have you follow to make it a success.Here are 10 great first date tips you can use when going out with someone for the first time.  They are meant for you to reflect on so you can impress the pants off that man that you want to make your own. 1) First and foremost, make sure you are doing something you both enjoy doing.  Do something that will put you more at ease so you can concentrate on the rest of the tips below.  If you are having a miserable time, you should expect the same results overall.  You should be spending time getting to know each other not complaining about what you are doing.2) Whatever you are doing, make sure it isn’t so intense that it takes all the focus off of your conversation and getting to know each other. 3) Have a good plan. Don’t just leave things up in the air. You can be flexible. That’s not bad.  But have a pretty good idea of what you’ll be doing.4) Even if you feel you are having the best date you’ve had for a very long time, never, ever tell him that he is a nice guy.  Truly, there is something in many, not all, men that will turn him off; nice guys don’t always finish first!  Or so it’s perceived.5) A sense of humor is so very important in every relationship.  So make a point to explore this on your first date.  See if you can get him to crack a smile and laugh with one of your favorite jokes.  If you can’t get him to laugh, that could be a sign that there is something missing in your connection. He may not ‘get’ you!6) Do your best to be yourself and, above all, don’t lie! People sometimes try too hard to impress and in various ways aren’t themselves. They might even bend the truth.  That can really backfire at a later time.  Just relax and things will go a whole lot smoother.  7) You don’t want to quit and walk out on him if you can help it.  But things can go really bad.  If they do, have a way to contact a friend and devise a way to leave early. And shake it off.  Dating is a numbers game.  The next date will likely be better!8) Take things slow on the first date.  There is no reason to pressure him to spill all his guts and make him uncomfortable.  You don’t need to talk involving the deep subjects like religion and politics the first time being together.  Don’t judge them to quickly or harshly.  Keep an open mind about this and just have fun!9) If the date turns out to be a dud, just be honest with him.  Tell him how you feel if you want.  But just think of it like you are just out with a friend then.  There’s no reason you can’t still have a good time.  And tomorrow, get back on that horse.  There are millions of singles out there; no reason to fret!10) If this is someone you met, a type of blind date, someone you just corresponded with on the Internet, then be very, very careful. Meet somewhere there are plenty of other people and don’t be as open as you normally would and tell them everything regarding your life.  Don’t give away all your private secrets etc..I hope these tips help!  You don’t want to make the first time too stressful.  Take all the things above into consideration and just have fun.  Enjoy yourself.  And if you find yourself out with someone else that is doing the same, it could be your soul mate! -Joe Taylor